Everyday is Learning Process

Today I made one of those big adult moves and called someone with interest in getting a mortgage... and I was surprised at all the different factors that come in to play when you are getting a mortgage.  I mean you know about the obvious ones such as credit score, income, debits, etc.  But they also take into account the amount of time you've been employed with a certain company and how you are being taxed.  For example: Zach and I aren't capable of getting a mortgage loan because Zach is taxed as though he is self employed and has only been "self-employed" for one year and they require 2 years worth of tax records.  I would have never thought that would be the reason for us not to be able to get a mortgage.  But I did learn many interesting things such as the range of house we could  most likely get approved for which was higher than I was expecting as well as the possible payments we would pay with this range.  I found the whole phone call very informative! The guy I spoke with was very nice and helpful! I had been so worried about all the bad news this guy was going to have for me and how he would look at us so awful but he was so helpful and it was just the opposite of what I was expecting.  Just another reminder not to judge a book by it's cover!

Surgery/Recovery

The Surgery was a success as far as we can tell the mass was a blood cyst and was not cancer! HURRAY! And they were able to remove just the mass so both of my ovaries are still in tact. Also while they were inside me they discovered my fallopian tubes were doing something funny and they were able to move them to make it easier for me to get pregnant. All that being said.. I am now in full recovery... I even went back to work today. I am still in some pain but it is tolerable and I feel much better knowing the mass is removed, everything is going well inside my abdomen and that I am back to being a mostly healthy 23 year old!

With all that being said I am glad to being back to normal and Now I can resume my house hunt and planning for baby Saulter :D

Time for Updates...

I know it has been awhile since I blogged and really speaking not a whole lot has happened. Zach and I made it through our first year of Marriage. I am now employed full time as an Office Manager at Avalon Apartments. We still have our babies... with the exception of our male Kitty Mozart who passed away in December. We still live in our apartment in Wilmington and things are just the same. I have decided though that it is time to begin blogging again because Zach and I are working on a few changes in our lives and I find alot of days my mind filled with questions and no answers or direct people to ask... So I have decided to continue our blog as a way for me to get some of these things out there and seek advice from others.

Today is the day for my surgery. I am having a mass removed from my left ovary. They are uncertain about what the mass is or why it is there. Since the mass is rather large they may also be removing my left ovary. While I'm still under they plan to biopsy the mass to determine more about its make up. Depending on what they find during the biopsy they may have to cut me open (they plan to do the procedure laproscopcaily) if they do this I will be in recovery for over 30 days and out of work. We are really hoping everything is fine and the pre-testing and the doctors are pretty sure it will all be fine. But with this scare Zach and I have decided it is time to try and conceive a child as soon as recovery and things are over.

Zach and I are very excited about the possibilities of bringing in a new life into the world and are concerned at the same time. We are worried about the financial strain a baby will cause on our already struggling situation and we know we will have to make a lot of changes to our current life style. Not to mention that I won't be able to work for at least 3 months and I would prefer to stay home with our children for at least a year! I am currently working on getting Chi Fashionista to become a successful business so that we could hopefully bring in some income the supplement Zach's income. There are many things that go into the idea to bringing a baby into this world and many questions and changes to be made. Any advice for conceiving and adjusting to the idea of a child would be welcome.

Finding Fun in the Ordinary

Sometimes as husband and wife things can fall into a very hum drum in ways. Sometimes you just have to turn some of the most ordinary most normal things in your day and make them fun.

lessons learned from a one year old

If we as adults could learn from our children as much as they learn from us we would feel more fulfilled.

Lesson 1 never give up
Have you ever watched a child learning to walk? They will take a few steps and fall get up take a few more and fall and sometimes they fall so hard you are certain they are hurt and the just get right back up and yet again. We as adults give something a try if it doesn't work we quit. If we all tried to do new things in the same way a baby tries to walk there would be no failure.

Lesson 2 do what you want to do

Children at this age are quite defiant for their 20 lb selves and they will do what they want. If little baby want to walk around the living room for an hour straight they will despite how badly you want them to play the expensive educational toy you brought. As grown ups we tend to put other peoples wants befor our own and I think this applies even more so to the women out there. We are constandly doing things for our families but we often forget about our wants. Take some time to do things you truely want to do and you will feel less resentful when you do those other things for your family.


Lesson 3 go to sleep when you are tired

No one likes to be around the baby who is soo sleepy and so crabby and just don't want to go to sleep. You are the same way too but there no one making you go to sleep. Whatever you want to do can wait until you are rested and whatever it is will probally be done better when you are rested!! So go to sleep!

Lesson 4 would you feed that to your kid?

As adults we often do not consider the food we put in our mouths but when it comes to our children we are thinking fruits veggies maybe even organic! But think about this you body is the same as theirs just with a little more experience why should it not be given the same quality food as you child? Next time you go to put that vending machine lunch in your mouth think would I give this to my kid for their lunch? If the answer is no put it down!

Lesson 5 learn someting new everyday
Babies are constandly learning everthing they do teaches them something different. Even as they learn more they become More and more curious and want to learn more and more. But as adults we often feel as if we have learned all we can learn and even though we are given opportunities to learn more we do not take them because we have lost the desire to learn or seem to think we know everything. If we all used a childs curiousity to continue to learn throughout our adult lives we would feel more fulfilled and knowledgable about the world around us and give us all a little more fulfillment.

I encourage you today to learn a little from the children around you they have a lot to teach even as we tell them they have a lot to learn!

thoughts on college

When I was in high school I remember a friend who graduated and went off to colleg only to come back home six months later a totally different person! I used to say "college took the silly out of Jenny" I never thought that would happen to me! Now I look back to four years ago when I started college and realize college sucked the life out of me!!! It has been so long since I relaxed that now that I don't have to stress about things I am stressing because my body feels its forgetting something to stress and about and I stress about that! Now that college is over I am having to relearn how to socialize... Its even more difficult to even explain how to go about these things! I find now that Collee was just a total waste! I look now and are the people I went to high school with who I thought were "stupid" for not going to college and they've been working for over 2 years with no college debt and able to begin adult life where I am here still unable to get a job four years later with more debt than I care to think about because not only did I have to pay 20000 to go to school I also had to incure debt to pay to live because I didn't have time to work! In the future I will not be encouraging my children to follow this path I will educate them that college is not the only way out! Did you know barely any of the rich people we associate with ever went to college? I've learned more about life in the three months I've been graduated then I did in the whole four years I was in college and I hope to pass some of this knowledge along rather than others fall in this same hole!

Quote for today

If I wait until I become perfect to love myself, I will waste my whole life. I am already perfect right here and right now