lessons learned from a one year old

If we as adults could learn from our children as much as they learn from us we would feel more fulfilled.

Lesson 1 never give up
Have you ever watched a child learning to walk? They will take a few steps and fall get up take a few more and fall and sometimes they fall so hard you are certain they are hurt and the just get right back up and yet again. We as adults give something a try if it doesn't work we quit. If we all tried to do new things in the same way a baby tries to walk there would be no failure.

Lesson 2 do what you want to do

Children at this age are quite defiant for their 20 lb selves and they will do what they want. If little baby want to walk around the living room for an hour straight they will despite how badly you want them to play the expensive educational toy you brought. As grown ups we tend to put other peoples wants befor our own and I think this applies even more so to the women out there. We are constandly doing things for our families but we often forget about our wants. Take some time to do things you truely want to do and you will feel less resentful when you do those other things for your family.


Lesson 3 go to sleep when you are tired

No one likes to be around the baby who is soo sleepy and so crabby and just don't want to go to sleep. You are the same way too but there no one making you go to sleep. Whatever you want to do can wait until you are rested and whatever it is will probally be done better when you are rested!! So go to sleep!

Lesson 4 would you feed that to your kid?

As adults we often do not consider the food we put in our mouths but when it comes to our children we are thinking fruits veggies maybe even organic! But think about this you body is the same as theirs just with a little more experience why should it not be given the same quality food as you child? Next time you go to put that vending machine lunch in your mouth think would I give this to my kid for their lunch? If the answer is no put it down!

Lesson 5 learn someting new everyday
Babies are constandly learning everthing they do teaches them something different. Even as they learn more they become More and more curious and want to learn more and more. But as adults we often feel as if we have learned all we can learn and even though we are given opportunities to learn more we do not take them because we have lost the desire to learn or seem to think we know everything. If we all used a childs curiousity to continue to learn throughout our adult lives we would feel more fulfilled and knowledgable about the world around us and give us all a little more fulfillment.

I encourage you today to learn a little from the children around you they have a lot to teach even as we tell them they have a lot to learn!

thoughts on college

When I was in high school I remember a friend who graduated and went off to colleg only to come back home six months later a totally different person! I used to say "college took the silly out of Jenny" I never thought that would happen to me! Now I look back to four years ago when I started college and realize college sucked the life out of me!!! It has been so long since I relaxed that now that I don't have to stress about things I am stressing because my body feels its forgetting something to stress and about and I stress about that! Now that college is over I am having to relearn how to socialize... Its even more difficult to even explain how to go about these things! I find now that Collee was just a total waste! I look now and are the people I went to high school with who I thought were "stupid" for not going to college and they've been working for over 2 years with no college debt and able to begin adult life where I am here still unable to get a job four years later with more debt than I care to think about because not only did I have to pay 20000 to go to school I also had to incure debt to pay to live because I didn't have time to work! In the future I will not be encouraging my children to follow this path I will educate them that college is not the only way out! Did you know barely any of the rich people we associate with ever went to college? I've learned more about life in the three months I've been graduated then I did in the whole four years I was in college and I hope to pass some of this knowledge along rather than others fall in this same hole!

Quote for today

If I wait until I become perfect to love myself, I will waste my whole life. I am already perfect right here and right now

The Time Will Come

"If You don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all"

One day I will be back with something less bitter to say until then I'm taking a sabbatical from the blog..

Tips for Future brides..

Now that most wedding bliss is over and Zach and I have now celebrated our first month being married I thought to give some advice for those brides to be.. And maybe others can learn from this too... 

1) Don't stress( I know so cliche) The day goes by so fast you won't even remember who you talked to.. more less the little details you are worried about.  

2) Don't make your guest wait for you to eat.  MY biggest mistake.. Since the wind destroyed my arch before the ceremony we had to wait and take all pictures after the ceremony forcing our guests to wait an hour in our reception area.. And as soon as we got there most people left because they thought they waited to long for us.. Let them eat and be happy! 

3) Make sure your guests know what you want them to do.. If you want dancing.. TELL THEM.. don't assume music will get them off their butts (I did and it didn't work) 

4) Things will go wrong just know that that will make your day even more special when you can look back and laugh.. Our 1st dance song looped at least three times, we were announced Mr. and Mrs Taylor and I forgot my vows and had to read them...leading me to 5

5) Don't write long sentimental vows. You are standing in front of A LOT of people.  Its an emotional day.  Its hard enough to say a few lines in front of a lot of people(for most people) add crying to the mix.. It's a tough road! 

6) Always have stain remover pen/wipe on hand! You are wearing white you are going to spill something on it! 

7) Before you and your husband move in together define and enforce who will do what (Chores, finances, cooking, etc) Once you get in a routine its hard to change and you don't wanna end up doing everything.  

8) Watch your grooms mother's cooking! He will expect it to be the same... and nothing else will do! 

9) Don't create unreal expectations for the wedding day you will only be disappointed. 

10) and finally Smile! Have fun! You are going to be photographed a lot you wanna look your best in them all so if you're having fun it will show through! 

Reader poll...

Once household chores have been divided up between spouses should one spouse still have to remind other spouse to do their chore?

Starting a Business...

I finally officially started my business today.  One may think that it would take quite a bit of money and hassle to start a business.. but today I found out it is way easier than one may think.. but more complicated in ways you wouldn't expect.. Let me explain.

Step 1) Register your business name.  Easy enough. Drive down to the register of deeds (I'm starting to feel like I see those people quite a lot) fill out the form, have it notarized, pay $14 and done.  You can now operate your business under a "fake" name.  

Step 2) Apply for the business permit.  Now this is not required in all cites and  counties but of course in Wilmington it is.  So you drive around the block to the city office.  Go to the business-permit room fill out the application..Then (here's the funny part) you go to zoning for approval.  Now zoning makes a lot of sense for brand new building operating businesses but I'm operating from my home so to me it seemed a little silly. So I go up there and talk to the zoning office.. and they ask "how much space is your business taking up in your apartment?" Well frankly it takes up no more than my normal crafting stuff but I try and explain the space of my craft area.. and he says You may need a  some kinda permit to allowing up to 5 customers a day and 1 employee and no large freight trucks to come to your home.. I'm like woah! this is a small online business, no customers to my home and no employees i don't think i need that! Besides the thing cost $250! So after we worked through that he still said I need a letter from the apartment complex to give me approval for operating a business from my home.  I reply. I work there I"m sure its fine.. But I still need the letter. 

Step 3) go to the apartment office and ask for a letter.. 

Step 4) back to the zoning office they see the letter and give me zoning permission.  

Step 5) Down to the first floor back to the business permit office where I fill in some more information, Pay them $30 and walk out with Chi Fashionista's Business permit! 

WoooHooo! It took about 3 hours total time to legally start my business.. It feels so exciting to know that i am now operating a legit business!  

Now granted the time it took me to create the web page, begin the accounting software and sew the clothing are not included  its still pretty awesome how quickly you can begin a business.. 

Now where's the customers?!?!